letting it go in 2012

January 1, 2012

2012.

I’m going to hop on the bandwagon right now and talk about how quickly 2011 went by. 2011 was quite a year for me. I learned a lot — about myself, about others, about life in general. 2011 will be the year I will remember that I came into my own, embraced myself as a person, and let go of a lot of insecurities I had been hanging on to from years past. 2011 was also a year that was really calming to me. While so many amazing things happened throughout the year (my niece being born and traveling to both the Dominican and NYC to name a few), it was also a year where I settled into my second year at the same school and found a routine with my life and my marriage that I didn’t have in 2010.                  

Last year I made some goals for myself to accomplish during 2011 that I didn’t necessarily post about on CEC. I wanted to participate in another CSA (accomplished!) and run another half marathon (I ran a 10 miler and am running another half in six days!) — but that’s about as far as “resolutions” or goals are concerned. Over the years, I have tried to get into resolutions, but try as I might, I just can’t do it. I forget about resolutions after January 15, making them unattainable and disheartening when I look back and figure out I failed.

There are definitely resolutions I should make. For instance, let’s talk about toilet paper for a minute. The Husband would probably love it if I made a resolution to make a conscious effort to replace the toilet paper roll when I use the last sheet. Instead of making it a resolution, I’m just going to do it. I think that should count as an anniversary and birthday present all in one.

Instead of making a bunch of resolutions this year, I decided to focus on one word. One of my favorite radio stations talks about this at the beginning of every year, and Tina brought up her word from last year the other day which got me thinking.

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I’m a very controlling person — not in necessarily a bad way, but I like to control situations. I am a planner at heart and have a time line and chart in my head at all times with every situation. It gets to be stressful, time consuming, and exhausting – and I’m just done. Instead of running myself into the ground doing this, in 2012, I want to learn to let go.

Many times when I fixate on something, I’ll go to the extreme. There have been many times where the Husband will look at me and say, “Chelsey, just let it go.” and it is incredibly hard for me to do so. This year, I’m planning on doing just that.

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I want to let go of any preconceived plans I have for myself and for my family and allow for time and plans to take their course.

I want to let go of how I feel my body should be acting and performing and do something instead of whining about it.

I want to let go of any doubts and fears I have and just live my life to the fullest.

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Instead of worrying about what could be, what should be, or what could have been, I want to take control by not taking control. I want to loosen up, laugh more, and trust that God has plans bigger and more amazing than I could ever think of for myself.

With every year comes new challenges, new lessons, and new experiences, all of which I am openly and excited to accept as 2012 evolves. Here’s to another year — bring it on 2012.

Question: If you had to choose one word or phrase to define the new year, what would you choose?

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Averie @ Love Veggies and Yoga January 1, 2012 at 6:38 am

Big Things.

That’s what I hope for in 2012. On all fronts and levels and arenas in life. Dream big, shoot for the stars, aim high. Go big or go home baby :)

I love your message about control and just letting things go. It’s so much more freeing when we can do that; to just release it all into the universe, but much easier said than done in sometimes!

Happy New Year!

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cleaneatingchelsey January 1, 2012 at 7:21 pm

That’s awesome – I hope you achieve all those big dreams you have!!

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nicole marie January 1, 2012 at 6:56 am

entrepreneurialism.

that word, amongst many others, shall define my new year!

i never in my life would have suspected that you, the fabulous perfectionist, Clean Eating Chelsey, would not replace the toilet paper! haha! definitely made me laugh out loud!

i’m a hard to please bitch, and your blog pleases me. i was skeptical of it, at first, because we write from different perspectives (you, the healthy girl always . . . me the healthy girl turned Bulimic girl turned healthy), but i have fallen in deep admiration with your posts. thanks for being in my life during 2011 . . . and cheers to a healthy, happy, fashionable 2012!!! xxx

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cleaneatingchelsey January 1, 2012 at 7:21 pm

Great word!

And thanks for sticking around even if you were not feeling me at first. ;) I really appreciate all of your heartfelt comments each and every day!

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nicole marie January 1, 2012 at 7:26 pm

oh you definitely earned this girl’s readership! see you on monday! <3

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sarah (the SHU box) January 1, 2012 at 7:01 am

i am definitely with you on the letting go — for me, it’s more about releasing expectations than giving up plans. i actually recently read a book (ebook) that really resonated with me about this — http://zenhabits.net/effortless/ — i can send you the pdf if you want!

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cleaneatingchelsey January 1, 2012 at 8:46 am

Yes yes yes!! To all of the above. I need to give up on my expectations as well! And I would love the book.

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Lee January 1, 2012 at 7:53 am

I really like that Joseph Campbell thing. While it’s not exactly a control thing for me, I do have a tendency to dwell on things, especially when they’re unknown and I know it’s not good for me.

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cleaneatingchelsey January 1, 2012 at 7:22 pm

The unknown is always hard to deal with. Knowing you don’t have a lot fo control over some things is good to just accept!

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Mindy Lord @ clueless nut January 1, 2012 at 7:56 am

I love this post! Often times I have to remind myself to let go, and let God. This past year I have faced trials that clearly proved to me life doesn’t have to be controlled by me as the driver. Sitting back in the passenger seat and letting Him take control has been the best decision yet. Happy New Year!

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cleaneatingchelsey January 1, 2012 at 7:23 pm

Thanks Mindy – you too!

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Kaila @healthyhelperblog! January 1, 2012 at 7:58 am

I LOVE this. I need to learn to let go of things too! So often I dwell on the negatives and let them bring me down….but not this year….letting go is something I am definitely going to work on.

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Sarah January 1, 2012 at 8:00 am

Let go is a good phrase. I could definitely apply that to my life. If I had to pick a word I would choose appreciate. So often I feel like I’m constantly searching for something, looking for the next big turn or change in my life. I want to appreciate where I am in my life right now, appreciate all of the people in my life and what they do for me and mean to me and I want to appreciate the every day things that I most always take for granted. Appreciate, yep, that’s what I’m going to focus on in 2012.

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cleaneatingchelsey January 1, 2012 at 8:48 am

Ah! That is an awesome word! I wish I could have like 20 of them!

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Amanda January 1, 2012 at 8:15 am

I can very much relate to needing to learn to just let go. It’s something I’m getting better at, and this past year was the first year where I started to do that. I moved back home (Boston) after a year in CA, quit my full-time job, and started my blog. I planned A LOT for all of those changes, but it also took a certain amount of letting go.

It’s scary and difficult for me to not try to plan out every detail, but I reached a certain point where all of that planning and trying to control the situation just makes me unnecessarily stressed about things that I’ll never be able to fully control. It’s a work in progress, but it sure does feel good to just let go!

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Lauren January 1, 2012 at 8:21 am

I love this post! You and I have such a similar personality and the exact same goal this year! Happy New Year sweet hart!

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cleaneatingchelsey January 1, 2012 at 8:48 am

I feel like we are both going through the same thing right now physically which makes our goal quite similar!!!

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Chelsea @ One Healthy Munchkin January 1, 2012 at 8:32 am

Girl you are so in my head right now! I’m such a controlling person too. I always need to be on a schedule and it stresses me out to the max when things don’t go as planned. I’ve gotten better about it lately, but I still have a ways to go to improve. Good luck with your goal this year – hopefully we’ll both make some changes for the better! :)

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cleaneatingchelsey January 1, 2012 at 7:24 pm

Good luck with your goals as well!

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Lindsay @ Lindsay's List January 1, 2012 at 8:33 am

Joining you on this one!! Control is such a HUGE part of me! (of many people, I think.)….but it’s really saying that we don’t trust that God is in control or that He will take care of us!!

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cleaneatingchelsey January 1, 2012 at 7:24 pm

Gotta love those type a personalities, huh?

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Maria @ Beautiful Busy Bee January 1, 2012 at 8:51 am

I also kind of need to let go. More than that, though, I need to get more serious about schoolwork! Happy New Year. :)

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cleaneatingchelsey January 1, 2012 at 7:25 pm

Yes, staying serious about school is so important! Good luck!

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Ashley @ My Food 'N' Fitness Diaries January 1, 2012 at 8:51 am

i can relate all too well with this! i think our personalities are very similar. ;) i would love to strive for this too this year. let’s make it happen! happy new year!

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Lauren January 1, 2012 at 8:52 am

Good post, Chels! Letting go isn’t easy, but it sure beats being a stress case all the time :)

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StoriesAndSweetPotatoes January 1, 2012 at 9:11 am

I think “perseverance” is going to be my word. Nothing really changed overnight for the new year and I need to keep working hard for positive things in my life.

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cleaneatingchelsey January 1, 2012 at 7:26 pm

Great word!

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Katie @ Peace Love & Oats January 1, 2012 at 9:19 am

That’s a great goal for the year! I am such a control freak too and should definitely try to let it go sometimes! My phrase for the year is Go Big or Go Home! No letting fear stop me this year! And ps I’m SO running Chicago 2012. No “maybes” anymore.

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cleaneatingchelsey January 1, 2012 at 7:26 pm

woohoo!

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katie January 1, 2012 at 9:23 am

Happy New Year love!

I always have goals no matter what year, but it is fun to set some special ones for the new year!

<3

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Katie January 1, 2012 at 9:36 am

Oh man, giving up control is a CONSTANT goal of mine. It’s a work in progress, but I love this post because it’s such a good reminder to do just that! Happy new year, my dear!

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cleaneatingchelsey January 1, 2012 at 7:27 pm

I have been working on it for the past few years too but have let it fall to the wayside lately. I need to get better!

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Gina @ Running to the Kitchen January 1, 2012 at 9:42 am

Without trying to sound like a copycat, that is pretty much the same thing I was thinking about last night during our car ride home from our friend’s house. I’m not into resolutions either but I loved TIna’s idea of a “theme” of sorts for the year. I’m a type A person to the max, not having control irks me to the core and letting go a bit in 2012 is my goal too. We’ve been in a sort of “waiting” pattern for the last year or so to be able to move back to Florida (which is our ultimate goal) and not having a definite plan, timeline, etc. for that life change literally bothered me every single day for all of 2011. I’m definitely trying to work on that this year because it’s a crappy way to live! :)

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cleaneatingchelsey January 1, 2012 at 7:28 pm

I would love for you to be on board with this as well! Having others to hold you accountable is the best thing ever.

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Jen @familyfoodfitnessandfun January 1, 2012 at 9:55 am

I really like this post as I can totally relate. I’m a control freak. And you are right, it’s exhausting. My goal for 2012 is to be less of a control freak and just let things happen! Fingers crossed ;)

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J @ ... semplicemente j ... January 1, 2012 at 10:08 am

Still looking for my word/phrase of the year … have my resolution done … yes, I am one of those … but I do want to find the right word/phrase …

… letting go … very hard to do for a Scorpio/Anal/a little OCD person like me!

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cleaneatingchelsey January 1, 2012 at 7:28 pm

I’m not a scorpio but I’m very anal about things!

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Lauren January 1, 2012 at 10:32 am

The classic phrase “Live.Laugh.Love” all for myself. I need to learn to live my life without my ED. I need to laugh because I have not done nearly enough of that the past six years of my life. And to love myself, because I have not taken the time to show my body love and nourishment in a long time. Enough is enough and I’m SO ready to change. I love your post, Happy New Year!

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cleaneatingchelsey January 1, 2012 at 7:28 pm

Great goal, Lauren – good luck!

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Amy January 1, 2012 at 11:19 am

Great goal! I can definitely use to focus on this too…perhaps it’s a teacher thing! We HAVE to be in control in the classroom…and it often stretches to our personal lives.

I won’t be a copy cat, so I’ll say my word for the year is appreciate. I want to appreciate what I have, and not worry about what I don’t.

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Lauren @ Forward is a Pace January 1, 2012 at 11:44 am

I love this! I do themes for each year, but I love the idea of boiling it down to one or two words. My theme for 2012 is “Don’t just follow your dreams; chase them.” I guess if I boiled it down it would be “Chase dreams” or “Chase your dreams.” Because just dreaming isn’t enough for me this year!

Happy New Year, Chelsey!

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Baking Serendipity January 1, 2012 at 11:57 am

I love your 2012 goal :) I probably should adopt it myself too. I’m hoping for 2012 to be a year of change for me, and I can’t seem to find that balance of letting go of the things that are out of my control, but still fighting for the things that are.

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Allison (Allison's Delicious Life) January 1, 2012 at 12:33 pm

This is amazing. I feel like I could have written every word myself. I am a huge planner and really like to control details of situations in my life. Sometimes this drives my crazy; sometimes it is very beneficial in the end. It ALWAYS makes things more stressful, though. I’d really like to work on letting go a bit in 2012, especially when it comes to spending money (as weird as that sounds).

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Jennifer January 1, 2012 at 12:34 pm

Amen!

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Julie H. of Spinach and Sprinkles January 1, 2012 at 12:56 pm

I was talking to my sister just yesterday about my inability to just let things go. (she already knows of this inability of mine.) I have that timeline and I get downright nuts when that timeline is not what I have planned. You see, that is not the way it was supposed to go- I worked hard and it is supposed to go the way I worked it to go……. Throughout the last year I have realized that no matter how hard I try, plan, or drive myself into the ground trying to make things go as they are ‘supposed to’, there are a lot of things I cannot control. God has showed me I am NOT in control. It has been the hardest lesson I have ever learned and I burt myself trying to learn it. In 2012- my goal is to accept it and be thankful that I am not in control. His plans for me are better than my own. (sorry for the long rant about ‘me’, I just wanted you to know that I have a seat in that boat too. You’re not the only one)
Love & hugs to you in this new year, Chelsey! God has amazing thins in store for you! Keep being YOU, that is who He designed you to be- and you’re an amazing you! Let go & Let God :) You are going to *rock* 2012!!

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cleaneatingchelsey January 1, 2012 at 7:29 pm

I loved this comment. I’m crossing all fingers and toes and praying that you find peace with your struggles right now. Happy New Year!

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Amanda @ Let Me Be What's Underneath January 1, 2012 at 2:15 pm

I love this post. I think we could all benefit from letting things go a bit more often. Happy New Year, Chelsey! :)

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Marty January 1, 2012 at 2:23 pm

I have two words for 2012
1. Balance
2. Consistency
I want to find greater balance in so many areas (exercise, eating, relationships, what I choose to stress over, etc).
I am going to strive in consistency with clean eating, regular exercise, emotions, etc.
Wow, that’s a lot to work on!

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cleaneatingchelsey January 1, 2012 at 7:30 pm

Great words!

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Amber K January 1, 2012 at 2:24 pm

Letting go of my controlling nature should probably be something I should work on. But it’s just so hard! I like being in control and knowing how things are going to turn out. I really need to focus on letting go and letting God.

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Gloria January 1, 2012 at 2:43 pm

Letting go is my goal for this year as well! I struggle with that one..

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Danica @ It's Progression Not Perfection January 1, 2012 at 2:55 pm

2011 was all about confidence for me–I ran my first races because I worked hard and believed in myself and I gained enough confidence to know that I need to live the life that works for me no matter what others may think…2012 brings on so much exciting stuff! graduating college, getting married, and running my first half-marathon, just to name a few! It would probably be best to adapt your goal as well! : )

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Marcee January 1, 2012 at 3:28 pm

Go for it in ….. 2012!

Marvelous post to start the new year Chelsey.

Although I am not a controlling person, some of what you wrote could be factual for many of us. Friends and (especially w/office workers …. yikes) acquaintances can often display their (terrible) controlling behaviors. It is noticeable after awhile.

Well, sure you can ignore some things. However, if behaviors become toxic …. gotta move along. Find other friendships, etc. More than once I’ve quit a job because of overly controlling office behaviors. Very unhealthy working conditions.

Possibly, for always wanting to be the “boss” ….. females are brought up to be “perfect.” It does happen. When you look at the big picture, difficult to let go of how we were “taught” things. We also learn by watching our parents.

Enjoying your blog! Looking forward to many more posts Chelsey.

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Brittany @ GOtheXtraMile January 1, 2012 at 3:33 pm

Excel. I went to church last night and it was about how to excel in the New Year. That’s exactly what I’m going to do for my life in 2012. For myself, others, my career, blog, etc. You got this Chelsey, you will have a wonderful year :)

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Emily @ Perfection Isn't Happy January 1, 2012 at 4:45 pm

I can relate to this sooo much. I’m such a control freak. I need to learn to let go this year too. I hope that this year is a calming, healing one for me, as 2011 was kind of stressful and overwhelming.

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Colleen @ The Lunchbox Diaries January 1, 2012 at 5:38 pm

Great post, my friend!! I agree, I need to let go about certain things – but if one phrase could define my 2012, I want it to be “be present.” So often I’m planning, planning, planning for the next step (tomorrow, 5 years, 10 years) and I often miss just being present and fully enjoying the moment. So here’s to my 2012 being less neurotic and type A! (we’ll see how that really goes.)

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cleaneatingchelsey January 1, 2012 at 7:30 pm

oh you and me both sister!

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Debbie (Accidently Delish) January 1, 2012 at 5:46 pm

what a great post chelsey and i completely agree and this is something i am working on as well.

i think my word would be acceptance.

accepting who we are including flaws is a very hard thing to do and it’s one thing i really want to concentrate on. i need to accept that i am not perfect and never will be perfect and one “failure” is just either a learning experience or a stepping stone to doing it right the next time. just because we fail at one tiny aspect does not make US a failure.

that kind of goes along with the letting go. i think we need to learn to just live. and enjoy life for what it is. LIFE. and just having one we should all be very thankful.

I wish the best for you in your next year. and many years after!

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cleaneatingchelsey January 1, 2012 at 7:31 pm

Thanks Debbie – you too! I love your word of acceptance. That is so hard to do!

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Pure2raw twins January 1, 2012 at 6:27 pm

growth!

loved all these quotes, speak to me. I am bad with letting go. I am working hard to leave past in the past and focus on now and the future.

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Brandi @ Faith Fitness and Laughter January 1, 2012 at 7:21 pm

I am right there with ya! I think I drive my family and co-workers crazy!! Sometimes I just can’t help it, but I know that there are times when I should just back off. I had someone tell me once that I could be taking someone elses blessing away if I took control all of the time. It kinda hurt, but I knew this person was right.
One word?? Contentment. Not in a way that means that I settle, but that I am happy with who I am as a person, as a woman, with my self image. Also, not in a way that I check out of life either. To be happy in the state that I am in and to be present in that state.
:)

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Lauren @ Fun, fit and Fabulous! January 1, 2012 at 7:55 pm

Amen Chelsea! I am the exact same way. I have backup plans for my backup plans and need to have everything on time and on schedule. I will wake up at night worried about something so little it’s quite rediculous! I will often times look back in the morning, and thing why in the world would I worry about THAT! In 2012, my mantra is going to be “God has a plan.” I spent so much time in 2011 worrying about what job I was going to get after grad school and where we were going to live it was crazy especially because I eneded up getting a job offer with over a semester left to go and our dream house fell in our lap the first day we went looking. God has a plan so we can just let it go! :) Happy New Year!

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Kris | iheartwellness.com January 1, 2012 at 7:58 pm

Happy New Year, Gorgeous!!!

AMAZING!!

Ahhh I also in 2011 learned to let go and understand that things workout the way they should. I learned from every “mistake” or hiccup and didn’t regret a thing that I “let go” I’m thankful for my Life Coaching Course for allowing me to really dig deep within!!

xxoo

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char @ char on a mission January 1, 2012 at 8:02 pm

I’m like you, but I’ve learned to let go of some things. I can’t control everything…especially the things in life that I am dying to! I just try and live day by day because that’s really all you can do, and if the things go the way you had liked them to, then bonus ;)

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Lexi @ A Spoonful of Sunshine January 1, 2012 at 8:42 pm

Love that last picture!!! Totally sums up my thoughts on the new year :)

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Grace January 2, 2012 at 1:15 am

I think I will always want my year to be happy. Although I really need to work on my control issues as well I have lots of them!

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Angela January 2, 2012 at 11:56 am

What a great concept…letting go. There are so many times that my husband has to remind me that certain things are just out of my hands. I think we all can use a little bit of letting go!

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Anna @ The Guiltless Life January 2, 2012 at 12:15 pm

Letting go is really tough. I’m super sensitive, though I have definitely got much better as I get older!, and I tend to hang onto things people say and give them far too much weight. Not everyone is the Dalai Lama, so I don’t need to give that kind of importance to what everyone says!

I just did my inspiration board for the year last night. My word for the year, pasted in the centre of my board, is MANIFEST. :)

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Heather January 2, 2012 at 12:26 pm

my word for this year is determined. I am determined to do a lot of things this year…but I am not putting parameters on it and just letting it happen. I am excited! good luck on your half marathon!

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Anna January 2, 2012 at 12:48 pm

Positive Focus!

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Kaitlyn@TheTieDyeFiles January 2, 2012 at 5:15 pm

Great intentions for the new year! I think mine has to be JFDI (Just Effing Do It). I have a lot of things that need to get accomplished this year!

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Sarah January 3, 2012 at 5:46 am

Im an insanely controlling person as well. I think thats a goal for me this year. To relax and not try and control everything/situation.

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peacebeme January 3, 2012 at 8:22 pm

A lot of this resonated with me! My motto for 2012 is Just Do It. I want to just do the steps to achieve my dreams and I also want to be patient with the process.

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Sophie @ threetimesf January 14, 2012 at 5:14 am

I love to be incontrol too – at least i always like to know what is going on, and don’t like surprises! It’s okay, until it starts to affect others! I’m totally with you on this one girl. Belated happy New Year!

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