When I was younger, I never thought in a millions years I would end up the person I am today.
A person who has a… picky palate.
Okay – not so much “picky”, but “selective” if you will.
I would eat ANYTHING growing up (except sauerkraut – that’s just gross) – I would always try anything once. I was the “adventurous one” as my dad liked to call me. Now, eh… not so much.
As someone who has a number of different food intolerances along with a stomach that is not made out of steel, I end up avoiding a lot of foods. I steer clear of processed foods and white sugar, among others. Now, this is not to say I never eat processed foods or white sugar – it happens, but not too frequently. The reason? My body is not used to those substances and automatically rejects them.
I have quite the digestive upset, get massive migraines, and feel like crap for a few days until I eat the way I am used to again for a period of time.
I think you’re with me on this one and we would all agree that it just is not worth the pain on a regular basis.
Eating out and going to family affairs has always caused some anxiety in me – the unknowing ingredients in food that were prepared by others’ hands could leave me feeling sick for days, especially if it contains gluten (my biggest upset). The food I can stay clear of – that is no problem at all. I can easily bring a gluten free/vegan dish that can satisfy me and the rest of the guests. I can snack out of my purse if need be. I’m a happy camper and will not go hungry.
But, there always seems to be someone out there lurking – someone just waiting for me to pass down requests to try an item or mock me for my dietary choices. You know who I’m talking about.
Food Pushers
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I’m sure you have all been there before. For example, Aunt Gertrude wants you to try her famous double chocolate layer cake (filled with gluten and dairy no less) and you politely say, “no thank you.” Now, Aunt Gertrude knows you cannot eat gluten, but she’s going to push anyways. “Come on… a little bite won’t kill you.” You’re right Aunt Gertie, it’s not going to kill me, but unless you want to switch spots with me and be on the toilet for the next three days, I’m going to have to pass.
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Or there are the instances where technically you CAN have the food but choose not to. Take being a vegetarian for example. I choose not to eat meat. It’s a decision I make day in and day out based on my own personal preferences. Am I hurting anyone by not eating meat? Absolutely not. But… low and behold, there will be someone sometime who will try to push a meat dish on me. “Oh come one, one bite isn’t that bad.” Um yes, one bite really is that bad – no thank you, I’d rather not.
I just find it kind of comical that so many others look down on my food choices and actually say something about it. Because believe me, I’ve bitten my tongue oh… just about 23020391 times a day when it comes to educating others about their food. Yes, I would love to tell Sally Jo over there what is in her fast food hamburger, but I take a step back, realize it is not my choice, and that I have my own body to worry about – not hers.
So when others have something to say about the way I eat, it kind of infuriates me to no end.
Now, there are others out there who ask legitimate questions – who want to know why I eat the way I do. And I will be more than happy to share it with them in a “I’m not judging the way you eat” kind of way. I have no problem explaining to curious people – I’m just not all about the pushy people who find some kind of rude way to comment on my eating habits.
I guess I strive to eat what makes me feel good on a daily basis. If something makes me feel cruddy, I’m probably not going to eat it. For the most part, what I crave is whole unprocessed foods. And that’s perfectly fine!
I remember when I first started blogging I felt such comfort in the fact that there were other people “like me”. That I didn’t feel like a pariah every day for the decisions I made to treat my body well and fuel it healthfully.
Although I didn’t want to rant, I guess I kind of did, which is funny because nothing in particular really “sparked” this topic. Selling point on this one? Don’t scoff at others for their dietary choices. Worry about yourself.
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Question: Have you ever had to deal with a “food pusher” before?
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It’s a thing I deal with all the time. Especially at work functions. Because food is provided they often don’t listen when I politely decline. I’ve had to develop a thick skin and just walk away at time.
oh I’ve had my fair share. mainly when we are out for pizza, pasta, or anything gluten. Its quite the debacle but at least the hubs will support. I think its important to be kind and thankful, but do whats best for you. Well said Chels.
I deal With food pushers allll the time! I’m in high school, so mfriendsmY friends Have Very unhealthy eating habits. All social gatherings involve food and I’m always being made fun of for being no fun when I opt put of partcipating in an Oreo, alcohol, or ice cream binge. While I believe in indulging on occasion(not on the alcohol ), I hate feeling social pressure to wreck my eating habits and beliefs on a daily basis.
Thanks for sharing this! Food pushers are the worst! I was a vegetarian in highschool/college and experienced it there. Then, when I lost the extra freshman 30ish… lots of people would question my new choices and push their opinions. Now, at work I experience a lot of food pushers who definitely don’t have the same healthy standards as me. It can be rough! You know what is best for you, enjoy!
All.the.time. And you know what? I gave in to a “pusher” two days ago and I feel like crap. Literally and figuratively. It makes me so upset when I let people do that to me. Now my whole workout schedule for the week is thrown off (forget running or having tons of energy) and I just feel blah. And people are like “come on, what’s wrong? you ate (fill in the blank) days ago.” It’s frustrating because it lasts for days. Okay, now it’s my turn to ::step off soapbox::
I have to deal with food pushers all the time. i’m a college student and many people my age don’t really watch what they eat. When they hear I don’t really eat meat or I don’t eat that much processed foods they look at me like I’m crazy and of course say “just one bite. it won’t kill you”. I’m actually working on a post for this right now…it’s annoying when people think they have the right to comment on your dietary choices…i don’t comment on theirs!
Totally deal with this all the time. It is so beyond annoying to me! Even when I was younger I was a “picky” eater. Which isn’t to say I didn’t eat well, but I the same things I hate today I hated when I was 2. 20 years later, I cannot believe that people are still demanding me eat these things. I don’t have any intolerances to food, which I think actually makes it harder. Some people just refuse to see I don’t have certain taste buds, I don’t want 25 servings and I can make my own plate just fine.
I love this! I go through this literally everyday! Being a teen who eats healthy is tough….people are constantly criticizing, assuming, and just being plain mean about the way I eat. Hey I don’t go around telling them that their processed foods and gallons of pop are ruining their insides….they shouldn’t go around telling me I’m weird for actually enjoying vegetables! You can stay on that soapbox for as long as you want cause I agree with everything you said!
Oh God, let me please introduce you to my grandmother. I’d say she’s gotten better recently but that’s just because I haven’t seen her in a while. I don’t think she gets that I can feed myself. She’s always trying to push fruit and vegetable platters on me because I’m a “healthy eater” and she thinks that’s all I have. And I have to tell her no, I don’t want “special gluten-free ham” when I’m having baked beans because I’m a vegetarian. And I know ice cream is gluten-free and vegetarian but eating it doesn’t make me feel good. I’m sure in her head she’s only helping but just thinking about it gives me a migraine.
bahaha I loved this - seriously, that is such a grandma mentality. I love her.
Great post! I haven’t personally, but I know what you mean! It’s annoying when people question things in your life, but would get very upset if you did the same to them!
I just recently began a vegan diet to clean up my eating habits…this post hit RIGHT at home! I’ve been having to justify my eating choices to so many people and it becomes very frustrating! Glad to know I’m not alone.
I can relate 100%!!!! My in-laws are notorious for pushing their food on me. I am still convinced they will never fully accept the fact that I don’t eat meat. Its funny how people are so quick to judge on our “healthy” food choices but then they are also the first to come running to you when they think they’ve made a good food choice for the day. Do you ever notice that?
Oh my gosh, YES!!!
Oh yessss…. I am commonly referred to as the family bunny. I don’t like the judgment and I just want people to let me be! I try hard to be healthy and no, it’s not easy and I do want to give in but I can’t, I just can’t. They don’t know my struggles with food so they should….
….. Mind your own beeeeees waxxxxx as my 3rd graders will say…..
I had a food pusher in my life just this past weekend. I don’t go out of my way to label myself in anyway (such as a vegetarian), but my mom finds it necessary to inform everyone by using that term, which is not a big deal but I just don’t find it necessary. Then other family members just have to come up and say “how do you get your protein?!”. Well, I bit my tongue and didn’t talk to her about her 2am hamburger addiction while simply stating, “beans and grains”.
I’m sorry I’m weird that I don’t get my protein from a drive-thru at 2am…
If I had a penny for every time someone said “Girl, you need to eat a cheeseburger” or something to that effect….I’d donate it to an organic free-range farm. I’ve been vegetarian since I was 13 more or less.
Now I am afraid I am a bit of a food pusher myself! I am constantly trying to get my family to try nutritional yeast..
One day my dad said “I’ll try that nutritional yeast if you take a bite of this meatball.” Heehee. He got me. To each his own.
Love this post-I can totally relate! I brought my own veggie burgers to our family gathering on the 4th of July and people were still trying to push meat on me! I try really hard not to say anything about the choices that other people are making but sometimes it is hard not to when they continually scoff at everything I eat! lol. One of my favorite things about blogging is seeing everyone’s great eats because I never really see them in real life besides my own stuff!
Well said, Chelsey! I’m sure begin gluten free and vegetarian makes turning down food even more challenging than for people without specific dietary restrictions/preferences. But I also can’t stand when someone tries (relentlessly) to push food on me when I’m simply FULL or really don’t want it. It makes me really uncomfortable. I know in certain settings it is polite to eat, and I try to when I can, but sometimes I really do not want to and that should be enough of a reason for someone to stop asking.
I also have co-workers and friends who comment on the way I eat and make fun of it for being “healthy” and I never used to know what to say back, but now I simply reply “I eat what I like and what makes me feel good.” Period.
Great post!
A guy I dated very briefly before I met my current boyfriend was a huge food pusher. He couldn’t understand why I didn’t/couldn’t eat so many things and would constantly make me feel guilty. Thank goodness he’s out of the picture. A good support system is key for these situations
Haha I totally love this! I always worry about being able to defend my choices in large groups or with family. I know they will be like, “oh come on!!!”. I’m glad to know that I’m not the only one who feels this way.
I can’t believe you don’t like sauerkraut! Gosh, I could eat that stuff out of the jar for hours.
I definitely know what you mean by food pushers. I, luckily, haven’t come across any of them lately. I hate it when people feel that they can judge what you eat or how you look just because you fall into the “relatively thin, regularly active” crowd. It’s like people think it’s so alien that either (a) you must have some weird health complications because you’re “too healthy” or (b) you have a psychological disorder with food/health.
All. The. Time.
But I find myself pushing healthy foods on my family and friends sometimes too. Which is the same thing, really. I try to remember that when some pushes their gluten on me.
I deal with this all the time! I don’t even have any food intolerences and I am not a vegetarian, but I try to generally make good choices when I go out to eat with friends and you would think that I have committed a crime when I order a salad or grilled fish instead of a burger.
Some people are totally respectful once you explain things to them, but others will just not let it go!
This post reminds me of the scene in My Big Fat Greek Wedding where Ian tells Toula’s family he’s a vegetarian. Then Toula’s aunt goes, “You don’t eat no meat? That’s okay! I’m make lamb.”
In my family, the food pushing comes from family members who really mean well but don’t understand why I choose to eat the types of foods I do. My grandma always tells me to eat foods that “stick to my ribs”-her definition of filling foods. But doesn’t seem to understand that “stick to my ribs” food is very different for me.
I notice food pushers all of the time. My biggest issue, like you mentioned, is the fact that it’s socially acceptable for someone to talk down to a healthy eater, but it’s not ok for me to make a big deal about the trash you chose to put in your body. The worst case I ever witnessed of this happened to me at Wal-Mart a few months ago.
I was in there for some basics, and remembered I needed eggs. Let me just say, I EAT A TON OF EGGS as does my boyfriend. So, as I moseyed through the aisles I noticed a lady that kept watching me and what I was purchasing. I thought it was strange, seeing as she had a cart full of Little Debbie cakes and canned Chef Boyardee. But, on the same token, I thought maybe she is looking to me to see what healthier choices she could be making. So, I went on about my business and chose the biggest carton of eggs I could find. This woman, pushes her cart to me, hands on hips and exclaims ‘What do you think you are?? A body builder or something?! All of those eggs and gallons of water.” Meanwhile as I try to pick my jaw up off the floor, I simply replied “No, I am not. But what I chose to put in my body is my decision and my business. Just as you chose to eat the things you do, I chose to give my body quality foods.” And that was it. Not another word.
Weird! Why do people think that’s ok?!?
It’s so frustrating! Food pushers, my whole family, especially my mother,who never took the first no or the second no seriously. I finally adopted the answering only once, every time she asked me again, I respond that ihave already answered that question…
Thankfully, most of my extended family lives overseas, so I don’t have to deal with food pushers all that often, but I do come across them occasionally at social events and they drive me craaaaaay-zee. I have no idea why people feel the need to try and teach other people how to eat… like I somehow made it to the ripe age of 26 without knowing how to feed myself… but what can ya do. Just grit your teeth and stick to your guns
Have I ever had them! I wrote a post about just saying NO Thank you!!!
I honestly try to keep myself out of situations where I know there will be pushers. But sometimes, it’s unavoidable.
“oh one bite won’t hurt”
umm, yes. it will.
I hear you loud and clear!!
WELL SAID! I always feel like I am the only person in the world who deals with this, but it is so nice to see that others go through the same thing! lovee it =]
I haven’t encountered a lot of food pushers (which is strange since I’ve been a vegetarian or vegan for most of my adult life), so I can’t comment about that. BUT, I can say that I recently did a gluten elimination/reintroduction diet and holy cow did I feel miserable today (my 2nd day of the reintroduction). I was wondering if you ever got tested for Celiac or a sensitivity because I’m considering it.
Oh my gosh.! I deal with this all the time!
People have gone so far as to say that I invent my food allergies as a way to stay thin and my own extended family calls me a food snob. My mom is always standing up for me and says that’s how O.C. Needs to eat or she will get sick. Which is totally true. But I know she won’t always be around to defend me and I have gotten really good at ignoring the rude comments of others. I just say that I know what is right for my body and I never asked for their input, thanks very much! But if they like I’d be glad to give some on the greasy, fried burger on a white processed flour bun they are shoveling down their throat!
oh my goodness, I can’t STAND food pushers! I love to offer new foods to people but will never push. Some people in my family can’t stand to have leftovers and try to push remaining food off on people. Its so annoying bec no I’ve eaten the amount I want thanks! uuggghghhghg
oh girl you are not alone, and by the looks of the comments a lot of people feel your pain…actually our family makes a joke out of how Lori and I eat, but slowly very slowly most of our family members are starting to understand. They still make jokes, but now I do not let them get to me as much and have come to be okay with saying NO. It has not been an easy journey to get there. I mean why do they need to add extra stress by making us feel bad for saying no, I am we already mentally and physically have a battle with the food that does not agree with us.
I am already horrible at saying no in general, so this just tops the cake, haha
“I guess I strive to eat what makes me feel good on a daily basis. If something makes me feel cruddy, I’m probably not going to eat it”
healthy eating shouldnt require so much defending.
I feel the same way!!! this post is great
In the past I feel I had more trouble with food pushers from family, but now its not as bad. I’ve even had some shove food on my plate or ‘beg’ me to eat meat. I do eat chicken and seafood, but not much. I did have a family member say “Please eat a hamburger for me, just once?” The worst is when people try to guilt trip you to eat things you don’t eat. I choose to be healthy because I care about my body and want whats best.
Gosh I love you so much. Your thoughts are so similar to mine, and it’s a great feeling to relate! I have a lot of food pushers in my life, usually in new situations since my family is very used to the way I eat. They really never push anything on me. But then I got married and have in-laws who I know are very confused by my “selective eating” - it’s usually with desserts and MEAT (I eat some fish, but lots of beef in Billy’s family). And I’ve heard the “one bite” argument so many times. So bizarre. If I were willing to take a little bite, I’d eat the whole dish, ya know? If anything, though, it’s just taught me to be sensitive to others and their personal eating styles.
This post really resonates with me, thanks for writing it! I don’t have any intolerances and I’m not vegetarian, but I do feel pressure to eat unhealthily a lot. My boyfriend’s family and my family can try to get me to eat something when I am full or just simply do not want it. Sometimes, I feel rude saying no, and there are times it is polite to say yes— but I don’t like defending myself at every turn, either!
Well said! Just yesterday while having lunch at work, one of my co-workers rolled her eyes at my quinoa. That coming from someone who I have never seen eat anything that doesn’t come from a package..Why are YOU rolling your eyes at ME?!
Once at a barbeque, I had the entire party gang up on me about my not eating meat. After forcing me to explain my reasons, they laughed. People seem to be as offended by vegetarians as I am of factory farming. Strange how that works. Thanks for posting this and reminding me I am not alone!
“You’re just eating air” or “How do you survive off of rabbit food?” or “I bet that tastes like cardboard.” I wish people would give me enough credit to know that if it didn’t taste good, I wouldn’t eat it! It’s hard not to retort with a comment on what THEY’RE eating… but I’m learning to bite my tongue and take it all in stride.
I can’t thank you enough for this post. Same thing with me, I used to be called “The machine” because I would eat everything and anything, especially the sweets, load up the ice cream, cake and cookies. Then I started to get sick from it and really switched my diet. Now I feel great, have more energy and have realized that we really are what we eat, and I’d rather be eating things produced by nature then someone in a factory putting god knows what into my food. Regardless, I’ve been getting a lot of crap from everyone, especially from those who “just want me to indulge in a gallon of ice cream and cake like old times” ..I’m sorry, I’m still the same person but eating like old times will result in pain and a not so pretty sight of me curling up in the fetal position. Since I’ve changed my diet about 6 months ago and getting reactions from others is still new to me, I’m just wondering how you deal with family and friends who refuse to see eye to eye with you and think you have a problem, which in fact, I end up eating more, way more than they do, mine just happens to be a much healthier alternative to theirs. Has anyone drifted/lost important people in their life because of making healthy choices and making exercise a part of their daily routine? Honestly I’m sick of justifying my choices and don’t know what to do about it!
That’s a hard one Jessica! I’m sorry you’re giong through that but SO happy you are getting to a healthier you!
With my immediate family, they don’t really say anything - they’re used to it. With people who have the “wow you eat so much!” comment, I simply reply “thank you.” Usually they then see that was not an appropriate comment and they’ll back off.
If anyone ever says “ew, gross - I would never eat that.” I reply with a, “well, it’s a good thing i’m the one eating it then.”
So very true! What’s even better are the people who generally mock you for making good food choices, but then are amazed when you eat anything they think is remotely unhealthy (while they’re eating it, too, of course)! It’s like they’re never happy! And this is exactly the reason that I try not to question what other people eat. Food is a choice. When you know how certain foods affect your body, you make choices everyday about what you’ll eat, knowing what the consequences will be. Can’t we all just get along without all the judging?
I have to deal with them all the time -.-
Ah, yes. I can completely relate. Being Italian and growing up with a family that loves food, I am the oddball that sticks out. Not only am I the only vegetarian, but I actually workout and care about what food I eat. They think I’m crazy!
I SO get this!! My grandma (much as I love her), is the absolute WORST in this respect!! She just seriously doesn’t understand veganism and every time I see her she tells me it’s unhealthy and tries to get me to eat pie. Oh grandma…!
YES! I always somehow manage to hold my own though and say no. I hate it when people try and force food onto people despite their allergies or dietry requirements.
I think food pushers simply don’t understand (coeliac disease etc.) or feel that your choices reflect badly on them. It’s tough but I always just smile and say I’m full. If I’m getting serious pressure, I’ll say ‘maybe later’.
Ah! I love this topic. I am not a picky eater (there isn’t anything I don’t like), but I hate getting picked on for stopping when I’m full or refusing dessert because I just don’t want it.
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No means No, ok grandma??? (my grandmother thinks I must starve myself
My mother in law was a food pusher when I first started dating my honey. She was always trying to get me to eat the sweet treats she made. SHE would never eat them, but she always wanted me to. I wasn’t even trying to eat that healthy back then, but it was still sort of obnoxious.
It drives me crazy when people try to push food on others - they need to learn to respect how others choose to eat (or how they NEED to eat, in the case of intolerances and allergies). Eating habits are a really personal choice and it’s no one’s business but the individual’s.
I haven’t had too much of a problem with it because people usually understand when I have to turn down food because of my allergies. Sometimes they’ll insist there are no nuts in it and try to push it on me but then I have to explain that even if they had a smidgeon of PB on their counter and it got into the dish, then I could have a reaction. THEN they finally back off haha.
I don’t have any dietary restrictions but yet i deal with this all the time! Coming from the Polish culture it’s seen disrespectful if you don’t eat the food that is being offered to you… and most times I just can’t eat anymore because i’m so stuffed! People have a serious problem with turning down food, it’s really frustrating, and they’re telling me i’m too thin and i need to eat more, which is not the case at all because when i’m visiting family i eat 300% more than usual! I can’t imagine having dietary restrictions, that would make it so much more difficult!
I’m in the same boat at loftyappetite (Polish family- they get mad if you don’t eat their food!) I choose not to eat certain things because I know I’ll feel terrible afterwards and I just prefer to eat healthier. I use to just eat things to make others happy and not offend anyone but would feel like absolute crap- both physically and mentally. That goes with drinking too.. but I’m at the point in my life where I just don’t care anymore what people think or say (for the most part…) Still working on it though!
My husband’s parents - whom I love dearly - are serious food pushers. They simply won’t take no for an answer. They offer over and over again until I can’t help but get annoyed. They just don’t understand why I don’t want to eat meat. I don’t bother people about their food choices…I wish people would leave me alone about mine!
How funny that you cited holding your tongue when others around you eat junk food - I hadn’t quite thought of it in that way, but it is so true! Why is it socially acceptable to chastise someone for making healthy choices and completely taboo to call someone out publicly for being unhealthy? Considering this, is it any wonder our nation is facing so many issues relating to obesity??
I’ve been a vegetarian for close to 15 years (since I was about 13 years old, you do the math
) And still, to this day, someone asking me “so what DO you eat?” can set me OVER the edge. Gah!!
I definitely relate since I cannot eat dairy and have lost my taste for meat for the most part. In my case, I feel like most people take the passive aggressive route though. They will say things like, “Oh, you probably wouldn’t eat this. It isn’t healthy enough for you.” It feels almost like they are daring me to reach over and grab whatever it is that they are offering. At times, it can take a lot of strength to keep my mouth shut.
I definitely think you hit the nail on the head with one of the reasons I’m enjoying food blogging so much. There are other people like me! People who won’t question my decisions! Yes, I CAN eat whatever I want, and no, animal products are not what I want. If I tell you why, you’ll accuse me of preaching, so I won’t preach. But if you try to push your food on me, it’s not wrong.
I was visiting friends and we made dinner. They wanted to make a dessert that my mom made for my grad party that involves cookie dough, and I said I’d just get myself some vegan ice cream. “Can’t you just let it go this one time?” was their response. I know they meant well, but I truly have no desire to eat animal!
I feel you! Whenever I’m with my extended family, I never say a word about their meat eating-no vegetables please- ways, but they can’t seem to say enough about my diet. They’ve even called it “weird’ I never knew that eating vegetables and being healthy was weird, but to them it is. My grandma leaves the lunch meat out for me every day, regardless of the fact I always tell her I don’t eat meat. But I think it’s worse with the foods I actually can’t eat a lot of, like dairy. They’ve never experienced the symptoms, so they can’t imagine it really being that bad. Sometimes I just have to bite my tongue and try to calm myself down so I don’t flip on them!
I despise anything that comes from the ocean, and yet my husband and his family really struggle to accept this. I never get in the way of deciding where to eat (there are always veg or chicken options at seafood places) and I’d never ask or expect anyone cook anything differently for me. I’ve made it very clear that I’ve done my fair share of trying, but I’m done giving sea creature a chance. And they’ve made it very clear I’m weird
I HATE food pushers. My family is full of them. Now, I don’t hate my family…but they make me mad sometimes. I suffer from a lot of intestinal stress too, and they don’t understand how one little bite can send me into tummy woes. I don’t know what is wrong with me…I’ve tried getting rid of gluten and dairy, that didn’t do much. I noticed I was a little better without dairy, but I love it too much to quit eating it…for now at least. I wish my GI doc would do more for me…he won’t test me for ANYTHING. He says I am too young to be having problems. SO???? I am going to go to a different doc soon and figure all of this out. My current one just says, ah, you have IBS. Well, that’s BS!
100% know what you mean. People get SO upset if you choose not to eat something even though YOU are not complaining. I try to just say “it doesn’t make me feel good” when I get asked instead of going into some long preachy thing.
I think I’m the only person who hasn’t really had to deal with this. When I decided to be vegetarian in high school, my mom was a little mad because she thought I was trying to make her life difficult, but she never tried to force me to change. She always made sure I had some variation of whatever was for dinner. When my team at work found out I was vegetarian, one woman started making all her potluck contributions meatless so that I could have them. I honestly can’t think of anyone who has tried to make me eat meat after I tell them that I don’t… now, weird looks when I bust out a green smoothie, I definitely get those
I understand. I’m joining an Italian family… enough said.
As a vegan, this happens to me constantly. Even my own boyfriend will sometimes offer me bites of his cheesy dishes. Honestly, I break down and say yes every once in a while, but for the most part it’s easy enough to say no, when you know how bad something is for you.
I have a theory on this one. Could it be the same reason people talk about other people behind their back? Commenting on our eating or workouts, (in that passive aggressive tone that even though the words are complimentary it still sounds like a dig?) it somehow deflects their own guilt for leading a less than stellar lifestyle? My favorite…”you don’t need to exercise, your thin already.” REALLY? Laugh, it confuses people…
This is SO TRUE. People assume because I make healthy choices that I must have some kind of disordered eating or that I’m insane and they try to make me eat food I can’t have or don’t want to have. Why do they care so much!?! Especially if it’s so good, and I don’t want it - more for them right?
Oh man. I do not understand food pushers. I deal with them every day at work. It’s ridiculous-they get personally offended if I don’t eat what they are eating! Great post, great topic.