people pleaser dip

October 12, 2011

Did you know I am a total people pleaser?

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It’s true, I am. You want something done? You should just ask me because I feel too bad to say no. Unfortunately that has worked to my disadvantage from time to time (ya think?)

In retrospect, I do get a lot of joy in knowing I have helped someone else out with something they needed assistance on. And other times I think to myself “why oh why have I volunteered myself for yet another activity?”

While I have gotten a lot better at saying “no” to something I don’t necessarily want to do as I have gotten older, most times I will agree to doing something because of the guilt I feel if I say no. Complex much? Um, yeah.

I blame my mother.

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Not because she guilt trips me into things, but because she is exactly. the. same. way. I do remember a few times though, where she may or may not have volunteered my siblings and me for tasks because of this. Thanks, Mom.

A few weeks ago, I couldn’t make it to small group because of a blogger meet up. I felt horrible knowing I was skipping out of a commitment I had made to a great group of women, but I would have felt even worse if I had skipped out on the great cooking class at Whole Foods a few weeks back. So, as I told my mother I would not be making it, I added in “but don’t worry, I’m going to bring the snacks next time.”

Famous. Last. Words. Can you imagine I may have forgotten all about it?

It wasn’t until Monday night when I talked to my mom that she reminded me that I was the bearer of treats for tonight, a task that might not seem too difficult for, oh, I don’t know — a food blogger. On the phone I replied with “oh yes, I know — thanks for reminding me though.” And on g-chat, I responded to Tina with a “craaaapppp I forgot I have treats on Wednesday night!”. Tina suggested veggies, pita chips, and hummus — check! Those are always a crowd pleaser!

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For those of which love sweet treats, I had a great fall back dip up my sleeve. I made it last year on a whim when, low and behold, my mother forgot that she had treats (I wonder where I get it from?). Thankfully, it was a huge hit, and I may or may not have forgotten about it until just last night when I was racking my brain about what else I could bring.

Yes, this has pumpkin in it again. Sorry I’m not sorry — only because I know you’ll all love it.

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And now I bet you’re all going to take advantage of me by asking me to make you some. Lucky for me, we probably live really far away — that means I can’t get guilted into doing it for you. But that also doesn’t mean I don’t feel bad about it.

Sorry I can’t make this dip for you — go whip it up yourself!

Question: Are you a people pleaser? Do you have a hard time saying “no”?

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